The way we deal with pain, sorrow and disappointment tell a lot about our emotional patterns and habits. Most of us learned in childhood that expressing "negative" emotions is bad hence we should get over it or at least keep it to ourselves.
Our most prominent fears come up in relationships. Being Alone is comfortable for us; our demons are relatively familiar and predictable, But together - one must be held accountable, transcribe feelings and emotions of discomfort, distress, and disconnection.
I often work with women who are in relationships that bring about a shake-up in their lives. The main reason for this is the lack of commitment on one side, usually the man, which causes a sense of instability and a lot of doubt. When they try to get closer, he backs away, then reappear and conquers them, and so on. They ask from a place of distress, sometimes a feeling of failure and rejection - how they should act with this type of men?
Why do some people prefer staying alone over being in a relationship? Especially when most of them claim they are interested in falling in love.
"The heart, of the fear of not being loved, runs away from loneliness and sinks into a swamp of false relationships." - Alejandro Jodorowsky We all want to be loved,…
Many couples struggle with the question of whether they should leave the relationship or keep working on it. To answer it, we need to dig deeper and find the genuine reason for feeling the way we do and only then to make a decision.